Talking Dirty To Guys In Bed – What Would Your Mother Say?

Amazing as it may sound, talking dirty is not hard at all.

In fact – it is incredibly easy to do, there is always a mammoth amount of things you can say or talk abut and it can be done in such a way that not only can you hide your face away as you do it but have the process of hiding your face be direct stimulation for your partner.

The hardest part of  talking dirty to guys in bed is knowing at what point in the relationship you can introduce it.

Many may well hear it, look at you aghast and run a mile. Others will pretend not to hear and continue to slowly and methodically hump you to boredom and, thankfully, sleep.

Other though will look at you with a mix of interest and fear. You never really know for sure what reaction you are going to get until you try it.

So why not start by saying something soft core that could be expanded in to either more soft core or develop into a more hard core approach.

For instance – simply moaning and saying “Oh yes, that feels really nice” is innocuous in the extreme but it will flag to your lover that you like to talk a bit as you are doing it.

(I've yet to discover the sex manual that states you have to be totally silent all through love making!)

Now if they respond by either talking back to you or by smiling and increasing their efforts – you know you have a live one.

But if they say and do nothing, keep going. Keep it soft core but keep going, they may just be shy.

A little “Oooh, ooh, just there baby, that's so good” will test them out.

If they say nothing – leave it at that until later. Then you can quietly ask them, in a detached and totally non sexual moment, if they like to talk during sex. See where that opening gambit takes you both.

Now, if they do answer you or respond to your talking by doubling their efforts or grinning wickedly at you, you can start to turn up the dirtiness of your talk to see what sort of limits they work to.

Asking them what they like is always a great starter – it lets you get a glimpse of what turns them on whilst forcing them to join in and show the level of dirt they are comfortable discussing. Obviously they will be slightly reticent to begin with – it's unlikely you'll find a partner who will immediately list for you every position and kink they prefer but it will get you onto the starting blocks.

From there - it's over to you to lead the conversation and ramp it up as you see fit.