Five Signs Of Cheating

Before we cover the signs of cheating, a warning is necessary. If you start looking for signs of a cheating spouse or lover, you are likely to see them everywhere. He stays a little late at work and you are suddenly suspicious. She starts dressing differently and you wonder if you should follow her. The moment you get in the mind set of looking for clues, you'll probably find more than enough, even with the most faithful man or woman.

This suspiciousness alone can do damage to a relationship as surely as an affair. Be careful using this material. Have a good reason to use it. It is important to know if your significant other is cheating on you. But it is also important not to destroy the trust that a good relationship is built on. With that in mind, here are five signs of a cheating spouse or lover.

1. Your Intuition.

To even have to ask the question of whether your significant other is cheating on you indicates that something is wrong. Your intuition is telling you something, but is it that he or she is cheating, or just that there is something wrong in the relationship?

2. Your Mutual Friends Act Strange

If your mutual friends start acting strange around you, like they are uncomfortable, it could be that they know of an affair your significant other is having. Even if they don't know, they perhaps are being told terrible things about you by your lover or spouse, in an attempt at justifying an affair.

3. Her Overtime Isn't Paid

If she suddenly is getting a lot of overtime at work, but her paycheck seems the same, there is reason for suspicion. You might want to just show up at her place of employment on one of those late nights, to see if she is there. If not, wait at home and later ask casually about how late she stayed at work, to see if she lies.

4. He Has New Odors

If a man leaves the house smelling like his favorite shampoo, and then returns that night smelling like a different brand, it is suspicious. Women's noses are generally more sensitive to these things, but a man might also notice if his wife or girlfriend comes home smelling like she just took a shower. Unless she goes to the gym, why would she have taken a shower? You might have to ask.

5. She Uses An Implied Defense

Suppose you ask your wife or girlfriend if she went anywhere after work, and rather than answer directly, she says, "You know I like to come straight home." This implies a "no" while subtly announcing that she'll take further inquiry as an attack. Sometimes, when people don't feel comfortable lying outright, they use and "implied defense." See if you can get a more direct answer, and note how much she squirms as you try. Difficulty with these kinds of questions can be one of the earliest signs of cheating (people get better at lying with practice).

BDSM Basics: Whips

One of the best known and most popular pieces of bondage gear is the flogger.  Floggers have been used throughout history as a top-notch torture device, however it has taken a bit of a softer turn and become an incredibly erotic tool for use in BDSM.  Used alone or with other bondage gear such as nipple clamps, this tool should not be underestimated and should always be respected.

Flogging isn't easy and requires a lot of time and practice.  If you are new to BDSM and are looking to experience it you can find groups and flogging workshops to help you along.  Through time and patience you will learn proper control to allow you to better please your submissive and more enjoy the experience yourself.  A truly experienced flogger will make it look easy and graceful.  Always start slowly as a poorly landed strike can cause bodily damage if given enough force behind it.  As will all forms of bondage and BDSM you should always know your sub's limits and respect all boundaries.

Each flogger consists of two main sections, the handle and the tails.  The tails, being the 'business end' of the flogger, come in a variety of styles.  Factors that influence the over-all feel of the flogger include the material, the width of the tails, the tail length and the number of tails.

To start off I will discuss some of the various materials that are used when making floggers.

Leather:  Leather is also used for many other types of bondage gear, and for the most part the leather used comes from cows however there are other hides that provide quality leather that is used in floggers.  Some of these are Deerhide, Elk, Moose and Buffalo.  Although each type of leather brings a different feel to the tails the biggest factor in how the leather will feel comes from the manner in which it was tanned and the way it's cut.

Rubber:  Rubber is also commonly used in bondage gear used in many forms of BDSM, but as far as floggers are concerned it is generally accepted as being more severe than leather.  But, as with leather, the density, type and cut of the rubber is the ultimate determining factor in the actual severity of any rubber flogger.

Chain:  Chain is also sometimes used in making floggers, however it is much, much less common than leather or rubber not only because it's more difficult to make but but due to the fact that it makes a much more extreme flogger and shouldn't be used by the inexperienced.

Once you've decided on the material that you would like your flogger to be made of you then need to decide if it will create a sharp bite or a deep thud when striking.

Here are the four main factors in determining how a flogger will feel:

Width:  The wider the tails, the more a thud sensation will be produced, the thinner the tails the more sting.

Tails:  The number of tails attached has a large influence over it's feel, typically the more tails there are the less of a sting is produced.  Most floggers have around 15-25 tails attached.

Tips of the tails:  Rounded or square-cut tips are more of a gentle tip where as pointed tips cause much more sting, and forked tips double that.

Tail length:  Although the type of sensation that is created by a flogger is less dependant on the tail length than the other factors, the length has a very direct influence over the speed of the tip.  The longer the tail the faster the tip will be moving upon contact.  When using a very long-tailed flogger you should pay extra attention to your contact point, it's easy to over extend and create a wrapping of the tails which can mean more pain than is desired and damage to the skin or underlying tissue.  The average length for the tails out there is 16-24 inches.

There is an incredibly wide variety of bondage gear out there and flagellation devices are no exception.  Take your time when picking a product but you should also try out a variety of styles and keep them all within easy reach for when the need arises.

Uncovering The Truth About The Clitoris

The clitoris is often over looked and neglected despite modern female awareness and the understanding of many women of their own sexual being. It is unbelievable that even in these enlightened times how little information is out there concerning the clitoris and how it functions and contributes to the pleasure of a women.

The understanding of the clitoris has to be central to this change. Slowly there is more infomation regarding the clitoris and it isbeing understood a lot more clearly. Most people including doctors and sexual therapists believe that the clitoris is a small pea-sized bump and that a females sexual response isn't as potent as a man's however this is not factually correct.

The clitoris has 18 parts some which you can see like the glans or tip, inner lips and the hood; which is the equivalent of the foreskin in men. The clitoris is a potent part of the female body and important to sexual pleasure. The tips have 8,000 sensory nerve endings – more than any other part of the body. Factor in the requirements of pregnancy and women have much more blood supply to the pelvic area and longer and stronger pelvic muscles. The overall effect is that the clitoris unlike the penis which produces a single powerful explosive orgasm can produce multiple orgasms (up to 100!). It can thus be argued that women sexual pleasure response is more powerful than man’s.

It is time for women to understand the make up of the clitoris. It is now believed that the way the clitoris is interconnected means that all female orgasms through stimulation of the female genitalia are directly linked to the clitoris.

Australian urologist Dr. Helen O’Connel using MRI technology noted that direct relationship the legs or roots of the clitoris and the erectile tissues of the clitoral bulbs and corpora, and the distual urethra and vagina. O’Connel asserts that this interconnected relationship is the physiological explanation for the G-spot and the experience of vaginal orgasm taking into account the stimulation of the internal parts of the clitoris during vaginal penetration. Women who experience orgasm from both direct clitoral stimulation of the glans and vaginal access to the internal bodies distinguish between then in terms of both the physical and general sensation associated with each. (in other words the clitoris is why women get an orgasm from vaginal penetration as the internal clitoris is stimulated).

During sexual arousal and orgasm, the clitoris and the whole of the genitalia engorge and change colour as the erectile tissues fill with blood, and the individual experience vaginal contractions. Masters and Johnson documented the sexual response cycle, which has four phases and is still the clinically accepted definition of the human orgasm. More recent research has determined that women can experience a sustained intense orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris and remains in the orgasmic phase for much longer that original studies indicate, evidenced by genital engorgement and colour changes, and vaginal contraction.

The knowledge of the clitoris is being increased every day but there is still a lot to learn. What we can say categorically is that the clitoris is intrinsic to any stimulation that results in orgasm. For many women direct stimulation of the clitoris can be panful so it maybe better for a women to arouse herself some other way to get wet before concerntrating on the clitors thus providing better comfort. The other option is to use your favourite lube to make things slippery. What ever women do in sexual situations the clitoris has to be remembered either in love-making of self pleasure to en-heighten the orgasm. Concerntrating solely on the clitoris can add variety to female self pleasure. If you want to learn more about female erogenous zones or self pleasure then please visit my site self pleasure for women.

High Tech and High Pleasure: silicone

When it comes to female breast augmentation surgery, most people are familiar with the application of silicone as a standard material. Well, it turns out there are several other uses for silicone, since this versatile material is quite durable. Because it’s highly dependable, silicone is great for making sex toys. Even though it’s a great material for making such toys, silicone usually involves handcraft work, which makes the costs rise significantly.

Despite the increased cost, we think you will really find “premium” silicone toys are worth all your money. There are also male sextoy's available, the most common of which is the fleshlite, fleshlite is a torch shaped object for use in male masturbation. One of the good things about non-porous material such as silicone is that it allows for through cleaning and sterilization, so it means you can share your toy provided you keep it properly clean. For perfect results, always choose boiling your silicone toy for 20 minutes or so, unless there’s a battery pack.

Thanks to its hypoallergenic nature, there’s no chance people will get a rash from using silicone sex toys. If you keep yourself from getting a silicone toy because it’s too expensive, you shouldn’t. Even though it’s more expensive, a silicone toy is a good investment because it will last much longer. This kind of toy is practically indestructible, unless your dog somehow makes it a habit of gnawing upon it. Plus, silicone is extremely soft and supple, with a realistic feel that makes for an incredibly sensual experience.

Silicone warms quite nicely to your body temperature, and rarely does it bring about a rugged sensation, since there are no imperfections or lumps. Just as long as you don’t mind the premium price, silicone toys will provide you with the most satisfying erotic experience. Besides providing you with an incredible sensation and look, this kind of toy will keep you and your playmate happy for many years. You should remind something important, though: using a silicone based lubricant with your silicone toy is not a good idea, since the toy’s surface will be ruined. Water-based lubricants such as Sensual Essence or Climax H2O are doubtlessly the best option for these kinds of toys.

Bondage Basics: Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps have become very popular with both men and women.  They range from very gentle to quite extreme, more extreme than most people can endure.  Nipple clamps also come in many shapes and sizes some with various accessories to increase the sensations felt when wearing them.

Using nipple clamps

Before using nipple clamps make sure to keep in mind to not limit their use to the nipples alone.  There are plenty of great places on the human body that are just craving to be clamped, most notably the genital region on both men and women and on women the clitoris can be a wonderful place for some more gentle clamps.

But for now let's stick with the nipples, before clamping your nipples be sure that they're nice and erect.  The easiest way to achieve this is to rub them, for many even the right thoughts can provide them with a pair of erect nipples.  But for some the process might call for some extra help, in this case you should consider ice cubes, they do wonders for exciting the nipples.

If you're new to this or just enjoy it to be a bit more 'gentle' you should start by grabbing a larger amount of flesh.  The more flesh you clamp the less the intensity will be, and as you want things taken up a notch you can reclamp with a smaller amount of breast or nipple.  A clamped nipple can be very sensative and should be the object of further stimulation.  This can be acheived through many different means, some common ways to stimulate a clamped nipple are through the use of a feather or other soft product, your partner's parts, such as his or her fingers or tongue also work wonders.  Some people enjoy products that poke, giving some extra pain, but I believe the best way is through a mini vibrator, just turn it on and let it lightly touch the tip of your nipple.

Many people either have much less sensitive nipples or enjoy seriously intense sensations and pain.  For those of you who fall into one of those categories, don't worry, there are nipple clamps out there just for you.  The most basic form is the 'endurance clamp', this is simply a non-adjustable nipple clamp that has one setting, high.  Once clamped these hold firm and can be pulled on for some extra intensity.  There is another type of extreme nipple clamp that has teeth, these clamps typically don't have any rubber padding and provide the user with a very sharp bite, creating a high amount of pain.

A couple nipple clamp safety thoughts

Don't leave the nipple clamps on for too long, some clamps restrict blood flow somewhat, so 15 minutes should be your limit before giving the nipples some recovery time. And remember, removing the clamps can be the most 'intense' part of the whole scenario as blood flow returns rapidly to the nipple and nerves bounce back to their original positioning.

It's also a good idea to regularly clean your nipple clamps with soap and water, the last thing you want to do is get gross nipple clamps that could possibly cause an infection on your nipples.

Don't forget, nipple clamps are not for women only!  Due to the fact that most women's nipples are a bit larger than men's nipple clamps are often a bit easier to use on women, but men's nipples need attention too.

Male Sex Toys

Face it, when it comes to shopping for sex toys, most of them are targeted at the female customers. Only some adult toys are available out there for men’s pure pleasure. Assumed there are few, and the next article will particularly detail some of them for your next trip to your much loved adult shop or on-line shop will be for you rather than your partner. Quite a few things that is on the list will also help couples to have a better relationship because it can be used when you are giving pleasure to your partner and you are also getting pleasured as well. At the end you will quickly realize that toys can be just as much fun for you as well as for her.

The Dream Sleeve is perfect for when you want some solo time and don’t feel like using your hand or want something different. This will give a sensation that will leave you breathless to as close as the real thing. Toy like this that are created to go around you and could help you heat up and provide you sensation for you to have an experience that is so natural.

Another toy that is a favorite of men and their ladies are the cockring vibrators. These come in various types and shades. There are even remote-control operated toys offering more stimulation at the right moment. This a wonderful toy to bring you both to orgasm quickly and practically effortlessly as it stimulates you both at the same time. Still, you can make use of it when you are alone and will supply more stimulation you require for a quickie if your partner is not available or you want to do it only by yourself.

The third kind of toy is also usually used with partners. For the second time you can use it on your own. The penis sleeves are made so that they fit around the penis and give you a larger girth to pleasure your partner. They have girth sizes selection so there is something for everybody. Be reminded that if you are planning to use one with your girl, you have to find out what size she wants so you don’t frighten or upset her in any way. Except from having ridges of stimulation in the area outside the circumference which supply her with complete sensations and bring her as well to her climax much earlier, on its interior there are ridges that can supply additional stimulation for man.

Along the same lines of the toy above, are the toys which are worn around the penis and gives additional length. A toy like this is nice for couples because it can provide her additional stimulation for those places that is difficult to get into. These are made from silicone that has a veins on it and the tips is made to have same look like it’s real which also gives more stimulation and pleasure for her. By the use of this toy you will no longer have the feeling that you are insufficient in any means because of length insufficiencies you might feel that you have.

Self Pleasure Tips That Lead To Greater Satisfaction

 

Self pleasure can be great fun and with a little practice women can find greater satisfaction from their alone time. There are many tools and techniques that can enhance your self pleasure expertise. The self pleasure tips discussed below maybe already known by some however a few maybe new to you and require a little flexibility.

1. Vibrators can be big help as they will allow you lessen some of the manual labour involved so that you can concentrate more on the enjoyment. The use of a vibrator can provide precise, powerful physical stimulation to the clitoris and gives the user a lot of command over the excitement.

2. Water can really help self-pleasure and assist a women learn more about herself. A good tip is to lie back with your legs spread in a bath with a shower hose and then directing the stream of water gently on to your clitoris. Start slowly and then play with the pressure, then pulsation and finally the warmth. If you don’t have a shower a trickier but possible method is to slide your bum over the drain so that your legs are up in the air and the genitals under the tap or a little bit easier use Jacuzzi jets if you have them.

3. Why not try rubbing against a something perhaps. Suggested items to use would be a soft pillow, a house hold object or vibrator.

4. Dildos are a wonderful tool for masturbation because they present women with the choice of being able to either take part in clitoral stimulation but also to have the option of the completeness of penetration and to also excite the G-Spot.

Life is all about experimentation and discovering more about whom you are and why stop when it comes to exploring your own body. Have fun and why not get a vibrator. One survey in a glossy magazine stated that 25% of all professional women between 25-34 years of age carry a vibrator in their bag at all times.

The body of a woman is a complicated thing. A woman has several erogenous zones so the only way to understand them is with trial and error to learn what works best. Ladies an orgasm happens between the ears and not the legs. It is up to every girl individually to understand her own body. If she cannot then how can she expect her partner to when it comes to love making. If a woman wants satisfaction then experimentation through self pleasure is the only way for her to ever truly find the ultimate climax. To learn more visit our site self pleasure for women.